femsubdenial:

thewhitewardcom:

Treatment in progress.

Every Monday night, the subject showing the least progress would be delivered to this room where, every hour, on the hour, a therapist would apply the vibe until she repeated her mantra one hundred times without losing count, or 50 minutes, whichever came first.

Provided a well-tailored mantra it was highly effective. Either way, even the most desperate, orgasm-denied slut did what she could to avoid experiencing it a second time.

The staff were encouraged to guess how high a subject would be able to count during their 5am session. The winner was not only freely allowed to prescribe and participate in the subject’s Tuesday afternoon therapy session, but was also awarded the coveted “expert of the week” parking spot.

femsubdenial:

3-holes-2-tits:

The dreaded infamous inhibitor bar.

Designed so that each step makes it move around inside, pushing into the soft walls in an oscillating manner. Combined with a vibrator to keep the hole slippery wet and the frustration at top level.

Due to the way the bar rigidly travels from inside down to floor level it is impossible to sit down equipped like this. And thanks to the mittens, those hands are kept out of reach and secure so they can not interfere with anything at all. 

Top it off with a blinding hood, and you will end up with one trembling mass of aroused female. 😉

All we need now is a treadmill.

sex-obsessed-lesbian:

somehowbreathtaking:

valdrake:

piraterey:

lemme tell you i am so fucking tired of angsty vampires. its enough. 

give me a newly-turned twenty-something vampire who hears about their newfound immortality and is like “thank god,” then proceeds to invest in some promising startups and fucks off to take a nap for two decades

give me a vampire thats only the tiniest bit phased at the blood diet because “eh, i tried paleo a while back and it was just as weird”

give me a vampire with self image issues who never has to avoid mirrors again because – bingo – no reflection

give me a genderqueer vampire who finally has an answer when someone asks their gender. “are you a boy or a girl?” “i am a vampire.” “but whats in your pants?” “fangs.” 

best of all, give me a vampire chick who is so stoked about being nocturnal because she’s never been able to walk alone after dark before and it’s nice to be able to walk her friends home and know theyre all safe with her

THAT LAST ONE THO

Yes. All of this. 😀

Would read/watch/listen/consume the shit out of all of these but ESPECIALLY THOSE LAST TWO.

magicwandsworth:

bladetiger:

ceruleancynic:

jumpingjacktrash:

kosmonauttihai:

rollerskatinglizard:

ceekari:

stayhungry-stayfree:

This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.

I frigging needed that.

Failure is not a permanent condition.

The text on the image:

  1. Maladaptive belief: 

    If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.
    More functional belief:

    If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.

  2. Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.
    More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).
  3. Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.
    More functional belief:

    If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.

  4. Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.
    More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.
  5. Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.
    More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.
  6. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.
    More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.
  7. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.
    More functional belief:

    If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

#6 is the one that tripped me up for such a long time. until eventually there came a time when i just kind of snapped and it was like – you know what? fuck my potential.

what even IS ‘potential’ and what counts as ‘living up to it’? that’s honestly such bullshit. it doesn’t even mean anything. it was just a way for adults to demand more than i wanted to give them, and it only got stuck in my head because they hammered that button so damn often.  and that’s their problem, not mine.

i don’t know or care what my ‘potential’ was or is. i care what i want from life and how to get it. and if what i want from life is quiet time with cats and spouse, not visible achievements, then that’s what i’m going to have. i don’t need to point to a shelf of trophies (or college degrees, or money, or sexual conquests, or nobel fucking prizes) to justify my existence. it doesn’t need to be justified! it just is! i’m alive and i’m going to be happy, and if other people aren’t satisfied with my happiness, well, they played themselves by believing they have a vote.

i feel so free. 😀

ALL OF THIS.

@jumpingjacktrash Thank you. This was exactly what I needed to see today.

3, 5 and 6.

Thank you for posting this, I need to think about it some more.

It’s hard talking to other people about kinky junk because my partner and I don’t technically have a safeword, per se. We don’t engage in con noncon or anything like that, so just ‘no,’ ‘wait,’ ‘stop,’ even just an uncomfortable noise is enough of a cue for us to halt. THOSE are our safewords, but people act like we ‘must not really be doing kinky stuff’ because we aren’t calling out something like ‘cranberry!!’ Like, buddy. 😒 Wtf.

instructor144:

toodomforyou:

toodomforyou:

That’s the thing, anon. For you, “no” or “stop” ARE your safewords.

If it helps, I’ve been in this lifestyle for going on 13 years now and @belovedsangi and I don’t have “safewords” either, because, like you, we don’t do CNC, so “no”, “stop” or “red” are safewords for us too.

A safeword can be literally anything. And yeah, when most people think of it, they think of “purple banana” or something, but “no” is the most common safeword in the BDSM world because the majority of practitioners do not, in fact, do CNC.

Don’t let anyone else tell you what your kink should look like, anon.

-LMS

Echoing this! I’ve never really had a stereotypical safeword – my safeword has always been “stop.” Because while I might whine or struggle or shake my head, “stop” is my definitive word for no longer consenting.

Safewords can be something like “tangerine,” but they don’t have to be. All that matters is that it’s a word that both partners recognize as a word that stops all activity.

-SD

Great discussion ^^^.  The money shot: “ All that matters is that it’s a word that both partners recognize as a word that stops all activity.”  

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