softandsquishygfd:

friendly reminder: 

you are no less of a sub if you aren’t into pegging, chastity, prolonged denial, pain or masochism (even the gentle kind). You can be submissive by nature and still not wish to be degraded, humiliated, or tortured. It’s okay to be submissive in the way you choose to be submissive. 

And you are no less of a Domme if you have a massive praise kink, or just want to spoil a sub, and pamper them. You can still be dominant by nature and not want to hurt your sub, degrade them, use corporal punishment or call them names. You can still be dominant and want to worship your sub with soft kisses, gentle touches and whispered praise in the dark. It’s okay to be dominant how you choose to be dominant.

Express your kink how you want to express your kink. I promise, there is someone out there who enjoys it the same way you do. 

At its core, D/s is a power exchange dynamic. And you are allowed to give or take control however you please (with consent) and please please please don’t let the glamorized and idolized Tumblr-centric view of D/s dynamics taint or color the way you value your dominance or submission because you don’t fit in the stereotypical boxes that are represented on this platform. 

EDIT: I am not intending to kink shame ANYONE, but I’ve noticed the Tumblr community focuses a large amount on the degrading aspects of BDSM, and that’s not everyone’s kink, for various reasons. And I wanted to write something supportive for those more into the lighter side of things. I promise, I don’t give a flying flip how you express your kink. that’s kind of my entire point. 

femsubdenial:

jukeboxemcsa:

Sometimes the one receiving pleasure is the one who’s submitting. You might think that going down on your partner is an act of service, an acknowledgement that the other person receives the worship of their body as their right and their due as an owner, but…look at them. Just look at the way that tongue licks away until the sheer bliss of arousal swamps all the other woman’s senses and makes her thoughts fuzzy and foggy and entirely focused on sensation. Look at the way her legs are held apart, so she needs to beg to stop when she can’t take any more ecstasy. That’s not a woman who’s in control of the situation.

And look at the woman who’s licking. Notice the way she’s gazing at her partner, evaluating every moment whether to lick a little faster, spike her tongue into that sweet cunt a little harder…or to wait, to pause and let the urgent need build until the other woman is literally begging her with not just her voice but her whole body to keep going. She’s completely in control. It’s her decision to gift the other woman with one climax after another in rapid succession until the poor thing’s brain simply shuts down, overwhelmed with mindless bliss…or to tease her for ages, idling along with just enough pleasure to keep the young woman’s mind totally centered on her need and desire. She can do anything she wants right now, sure that it will be welcomed and embraced.

You can see the way her mouth moves away for just a moment, just long enough to whisper a command in among the other woman’s moans of arousal. You can tell how easy it would be to let those soft, murmured words mingle with the pleasure to send her partner into deeper and deeper throes of mindless ecstasy. When one person is focused entirely on bliss, and the other person is focused entirely on control, it’s no secret that one of them is going to wind up the dominant and the other the submissive. The pleasure becomes its own beautiful chain, binding every thought into a hunger for more desire, more lust, more orgasmic delight. One of them can do anything she wants, the other wants anything she’s given. It’s really that simple.

And in the end, they will both get what they want. Once those chains are in place, the woman so eagerly receiving pleasure will just as eagerly beg to provide it. The same actions will play out with the positions reversed, but the licking will be an act of thoughtless and blissful surrender and the delicious string of firework-intense orgasms will be the pleasure of a woman who knows that she has exactly what she wants. The same acts, the same motions, but the meaning entirely different. Dominance and submission isn’t about what you do. It’s about what you want and who you want to be.

The woman kneeling wants to pleasure her good girl into compliance. And the girl lying back and letting herself be licked? She wants nothing more than to comply. Isn’t it beautiful?

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Yesssssssssssss

My sir has suddenly done a 180 on me and I’m very scared. He used to consider my opinions and treat me as his girlfriend and his sub. Now I’m just a sub. He wants to decide how I dress, how my hair should be cut, what I eat and who I talk to. I loved being owned but now I feel trapped. He also has been ignoring safe words and forcing me to do things in my hard limits and my red zone. I love him but I just don’t know what to do. Sorry to bother you, I just don’t know what to do

toodomforyou:

Anon-
I’m not going to mince words: leave him ASAP.

Abusive people are able to get away with being abusive people because they usually aren’t abusive right off the bat. They sucker us in with kindness and honeyed words. They make sure we see the best in them and believe that about them before they show us their worst. It’s classic abusive behavior.

I know you love him. We often do love our abusive partners. Our brains focus on the positive things they used to do, or even things that they may still do, and filter out the negatives. You convince yourself that staying is better than the alternative.

It isn’t.

I don’t know any other way to say it than this: you are in danger and you need to leave.

Sudden drastic changes in behavior like this are signs that your dom isn’t stable or trustworthy, and he is abusing you and raping you by ignoring your withdrawal of consent in the form of a safeword. This is a dangerous situation and the longer you stay, the worse it is likely to get.

Find a trusted friend, a family member, even a shelter that can give you a place to go. Just don’t be there anymore. Please.

My personal blog is lovemysub.tumblr.com and if you need to talk this out I urge you to message me there, it will be 100% confidential. But please whatever you do, don’t stay with this guy and let him put you in harm’s way.

Sending love and light your way, anon. Let me know if I can help in any way.

-LMS

femsubdenial:

beggingforpermission:

onedeadpoet:

I told you this week we were going to be painting. Did you think I meant a room?

I can’t decide if I’m hoping the bristles are soft or rough.

Come on up, @beggingforpermission! For Science!™

I promise that even after I figure out which one is worse, pausing only to jot times and observations on my clipboard, I’ll continue switching from one to the other for a while just to make absolutely sure, grinning the whole time.

My favorite is a fan brush. It’s like a blade of soft, gentle, mindlessness. Millimeters to either side changes the sensation to something bearable, ensuring frantic, lewd squirming that makes my head buzz just thinking about it.

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