Updated Library For Kinksters

dominantlife:

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

Littles, Subs & Slaves

Long Distance Relationships

Mental Health

Relationships

Safety

Self Improvement

Sex

Toys

Training

toodomforyou:

toodomforyou:

This is a true gem right here… I responded to his original message with a simple no. Which i thought kind of covered all of the bases of his questions because I just wasn’t interested in what he was offering, but maybe my no wasn’t clear enough. what do you think?

WOW. This is one of the funniest submissions we’ve ever gotten here. Guys, if you have a minute I highly recommend reading this dude’s impressive wall-of-text. Some of the highlights are:

1. I’m a millionaire.

2. Robots.

3. I’m going to send this to *my* robot, the doctor, to make use of his facial recognition software

4. I don’t think you are thinking clearly because nobody in their right mind would reject me.

5. I’m really good at handling rejection, as evidenced by this insane rant about how good at handling rejection I am.

And to answer your question, I think a one word, simple “no” is one of the most clear-cut and unambiguous responses in the English language.

-LMS

Reasons I am thankful for LMS: he was capable of reading this whole thing so I didn’t have to. 😂

-SD

eveadams01:

lapetitedevil:

“You’re not only a sex object.”

“Oh my god please Sir I need to cum, I need to, I can’t handle it. I need it. Please”

“No you just want to”

“No no I’m passed wanting it I need it. Please oh god”

“Shhhhhh it’s ok. I’ll stop calm down.”

“Oh god don’t stop please please I beg you keep going”

“Shhhh baby. It’s ok. Calm down. Calm down. Breath”

“Ohhhhh goddddd I needed it so badly. Pleeeeeeheeeeease”

“Shhhh come here, snuggle in my arms. It’s ok. It’s ok. Just breath, calm yourself. There you go. Deep breaths now. Slow it down. That’s it.”

“Oh god Sir. That was bad. I was so close I’ve never wanted to cum so much in my life.”

“It’s ok. The point is you didn’t. We stopped it didn’t we”

“Yes Sir. Thank you.”

“Do you want to cum now?”

“I always want it but I’m not as crazy in need as I was. It was so bad”

“So right this second if I said ok cum would you cum?”

“I’d need to touch again. So no I couldn’t cum this second”

“Yet only seconds ago you were begging me to”

“I know. It was so bad. It took me over”

“It was sexy. I liked it”

“It was torturous Sir”

“It was beautiful. So you can’t cum right now?”

“No sir”

“So you weren’t that in need of it really then were you? In fact I think no matter what you will not ask to cum again for the next week. Because we both know seconds later you’ll say you don’t need to after all”

“It’s been so many weeks now I seem to be at the stage where my body is crying out for it. When you touch me my pussy is ready to cum, I want it so badly in that moment”

“But then you calm down and realise that you didn’t really and that this is better. Isn’t this better? Not orgasming?”

“I….. um…… well yes I think so. But in that moment….”

“Shhhh forget that moment. Just think about this one. When you’re still really horny, wet, dripping, aching and that just a little more touching would get you back there, begging, screaming, crying to cum. Open your legs. Relax”

“Oh god Sir it’s too soon please”

“Shhhh Relax. Concentrate on not cumming for me”

“Oh god…… oh god….. oh fuck please please slow down please Oh god oh god please please…….. fuck please oohhhhhhh please Sir please let me cum I need it please please Oh god please……… Siiirrrrrrr….. pleeeassseeeee”

“No baby. No you may not cum.”

“Please Oh god I can’t hold it I can’t hold it Oh god oh god”

“And stop. See…. you held it. But I do remember saying you were not to ask to cum.”

“Oh god…. that was so close…. oh god…. I’m so sorry I couldn’t help it. Oh Sir it’s so bad. It’s right there and I can feel it would be amazing”

“This is better though. If you came it would be all over. This way we make it last for months. This is how women should be. This is how I want you. Like this”

“Oh god please no more please Oh Sir Oh god Sir…… I won’t ask I won’t ask…… ohhhhhhhh fuckkkkkk please please please”

“Please what baby?”

“Oh god please……I’m there I’m there….. oh god Sir…… please……”

“Hold it for me”

“Please I need it. Oh god I need it. I need to cummmmm pleasaseeee”

“Are you holding it?”

“Yessssssss Sirrr…… ohhhh ohhh ohhh”

“And stop. See! This is so much better. Good girl”

“Why?”

instructor144:

amysubmits:

instructor144:

An exchange with a Follower got me thinking about something that seems to be worth talking about this evening: Doms explaining themselves, and why I think it’s a good thing ….

First of all, I need to say: I’m an explainer. (I’ve been told more than once that I sometimes overexplain, but whatever …) When I impose a rule or a protocol or a recurring task, I tend to explain the rationale behind it. To be clear, I don’t necessarily have to explain my decisions, but I find that I get a better quality dynamic (and thus, a better quality submissive) if I do. Some reasons …

By explaining the reasons behind your decisions, you are engaging your submissive’s brain in the process. You’ve given their brains something to chew on, always a good thing with the typical busy, noisy submissive brain.

You get their buy-in. A submissive can only hear “because I said so” so many times before a certain subliminal resentment starts to build. Submissives are generally hard working little rascals, but like any hard worker, they want to know that their efforts make sense and they are making a contribution. 

You reinforce the fact that you are always operating from an overarching plan, not just randomly spewing out orders because some passing fancy moves you to do so. I can’t count how many times I’ve told someone “There is always a method to my madness.” It comforts the submissive brain when they understand the method.

Explaining what’s going on plays into the important “grooming” and “mentoring” aspects of a D/s relationship. Even with a seasoned submissive who has quite a bit of lived experience, an important part of your charge is to help them to flourish and rise to be the best submissive for you that they can be. Knowledge and understanding help them to do that.

Lastly, but most importantly, it shows this simple thing called “respect.” Respect for their intelligence, and respect for their willingness to submit in an informed way. You do respect your submissive, yes? 

Now, I am picturing a lot of my Dom Followers getting all Domly with their bad selves and thumping their chests roaring “Because I said so is good enough!!” Calm your tits, boys (and girls). Spare me the bluster and the posturing, I’ve heard it all before and it bores me. As I preach ad nauseam, a D/s relationship is first and foremost a relationship. There are two people in the relationship. You are partners. Now, that being said, as the dynamic evolves and your submissive comes to see the wisdom inherent in your decisions (because early on you’ve explained the reasons for them), they will breathe that deep sigh of relief and fall into that warm place of trust where “Because I said so” not only won’t alarm them, it will make them feel safe and protected and loved.

Yesssssssss all of this. 

Understanding why my Dom leads the way he does helps me to find greater peace in submitting to his leadership. I can see that he thought it through carefully and why he chose the way he did. It helps me to trust him even more when I see he makes calculated decisions instead of impulsive ones. 

My Dom does the “because I said so.” but on very rare occasion. It’s when he knows I already know his reasons and am questioning further as a way of not complying. Or as a way of whining. For us, “because I said so.” is a harsh warning that I’m out of line and need to get myself back in line, or he will.

Anytime I am genuinely confused or don’t understand his reasons, he gives me a real answer if I request one. Sometimes he explains himself and I point out things that he didn’t see or consider, and I change his mind, even! Dom’s are humans too. Occasionally mine misses minor details or forgets things. If I suspect he has missed something that may alter his decision, I just ask him. So he listens to me, and then he still makes the final call. 

All of this ^^^ Including being amenable to reason, and changing one’s mind based on input from one’s submissive. I’ve done it many times.

hornydeniedgirl:

“It’s time for your edging, baby. Go set yourself up, I’ll be there in a bit.”

She knew exactly what this meant. Go to the bedroom, strip, lay out all the tools he might want to use, attach the cuffs to the headboard, put on her eye mask, lay down on her back, spread her legs and put her hands above her head. After that, she is to stay still and wait for him to come administer her nightly torment.

Sometimes he came in almost as soon as she was done setting up. Other times he made her wait and wait, stewing in her anticipation. He liked to keep her guessing, it was one of the most effective things that heightened her need, even more than the physical touch itself.

He kept it simple this time. After a ten minute wait he snapped the cuffs around her wrists, leisurely oiled up her body, paying particular attention to her nipples, then licked her pussy for a while, much slower and lighter than his usual, then fingered her hard until she gasped out that she was gonna cum.

Then he stopped.

Her eye mask slipped while he was fingering her, so she could watch him undress.

She gave him the best orgasms after her edgings.

scsh3000:

dom-plays-with-dolls:

followsmokey:

bimbeth:

She’s blushing

Maybe she needs a little more reprogramming …

… or maybe she’s watching helplessly from the back of her mind as her body obeys …

She looks like someone who never knew she had a degradation fetish until just now. 

In the front of her mind, she’s mortified. She had never done anything like this before, and she never in a million years thought she ever would. She wasn’t that type of girl. She can feel her face growing hot, her chest tightening. She has to fight the urge to sob right then and there.

In the back of her mind, however, is a spark she can’t explain. A rush, a surge of erotic adrenaline. Good girls don’t do this, and yet there she is. So she must be a naughty girl…

She puts on a fearful front, but her dripping pussy gives her away.

^^^  That caption rings a bell.  

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