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sadisticgames: I have fucked up innumerable times in every aspect of my life.  Looking back, I like to think I’ve owned up to and learned from each mistake.  Sometimes, especially when I was first getting into kink, that was difficult.  I was the Dominant, I had to have all the answers, to do everything rightContinue reading “Have you ever made a mistake during play & not made amends to your sub? I endured blisters on my thighs from hot wax, & I don’t feel properly cared for. The wax fell fast from the flame. It sizzled & blisters appeared almost immediately. While He did give me his Maderma cream, He’s basically brushed what happened off. I asked him to research the mistake & He hasn’t bc he blames the candles. I’m out of town & I sent him pics but no response to them so I stopped bringing it up.”

toodomforyou: lovemysub: Hi, anon! Let me be as clear as I can be here: your safety should and does override every other possible concern in this situation, including his wants and needs. I’m glad you are wanting to vet this person because it’s important. First, know that vetting is very common in the BDSM world.Continue reading “Best way to vet a possible partner when you’re new to the scene? Him coming to my place isn’t an option due to my roommates not knowing anything about my kinks, so that leaves a hotel or his place. I don’t want to be murdered and he’s 17 year older than myself.”

exploringthedirt: It doesn’t matter who you are. Arousal can make you wish to be used. Arousal can make you feel incredibly dominant. Arousal can make you feel incredibly submissive. Arousal can make you desire things you would normally only dream of. And that’s why I love arousal so much. It can make you soft. ItContinue reading “Arousal fucks with your mind.”

instructor144: submissive-seeking: instructor144: boy-kai: instructor144: i-could-be-the-walrus: This question is kinda bumming me out because they are equating ‘honoring consent’ with ‘a person has to always want to do <thing>.’ Now, in terms of sexy times, especially *vanilla* sexy times, those two things are synonymous. And @instructor144‘s answer certainly covers the practical reality of most D/s relationships inContinue reading “How is consent honored if an aspect of submission is doing something when one does not want to? I guess what I mean is how is consent effectively withdrawn without the sub or Dom seeming as they “just don’t want to do it today”? Or, can it be at all without it seeming this way?”

tease-that-girl: Maxi’s favourite toy is her magic wand. That’s no surprise, it’s called magic for good reason! Plus her options for pleasure are limited by her forbidden hole, which she’ll never play with for her own selfish pleasure no matter how good any given toy might feel there. She’s too little, and she knows thatContinue reading “Repurposing”