When a Sub gives the control over to her Dom, It means she believes he has the wisdom, patience and strong sense of responsibility to decide and do what’s best for her. If the Dom gets seduced by other women or even gets heavily distracted by other things, he’s not a responsible Dom. Isn’t the whole d/s about control? How can he be trusted to control his sub when he can’t control himself? The seducer can be blamed for not respecting the boundaries but the Dom is far more at fault.

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intimate-cat:

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chloeloveslut:

instructor144:

Interesting perspective. Followers?

I don’t agree with this. Maybe your Dom is poly. Maybe your Dom is, I don’t know, human. If my Sir has a lot going on at work I don’t except his mind to be fully focused on me/us. If he needs some time to partake of personal hobbies sometimes, I don’t expect to be the priority. People get distracted by things sometimes, it doesn’t mean they’re irresponsible or crap.

I agree for a very specific set of people but, for most, this is a toxic ideal.

You are human, therefore you have flaws. Your partner(s) is human, therefore they are flawed.

I think everyone getting crushed by their own expectations of deep relationships should listen to Hidden Brain’s episode “When Did Marriage Become So Hard?” (For a good snippet, start at 28:48)

I don’t see this as OP talking about a poly relationship, hobbies or forgivable flaws, however.

The Dom gets seduced by other women – no sign of a poly relationship here.

The Dom gets heavily distracted – seems like a bit more than a hobby. Seems more like the Dom neglecting important things in favour of distractions, seems like bad prioritisation.

With one thing I do agree, though. These are character flaws, personal flaws. Not flaws of the D/s aspect of the relationship. This would not be okay in any relationship, not just a D/s one.

I have been served.

Very good points!