The true power of a Dominant is in using the power they are given by their submissive to make their lives better, and help them realize their potential.

femsubdenial:

freakedoutfalcon:

foxyshadow:

dreamsofadarksubmissivewytch:

onelittlekingdom:

The sex is just one of the most enjoyable ingredients and tools at the dominant’s disposal. 

JerseyDaddy🌹

TRUTH

It is ALWAYS in my interest to better those in my care.

I’m currently attempting to wrap my mind around the fact that this exists in reality.

It is a difficult concept to make peace with, I know. I had a manager and mentor who floored me one night at a bar. I was an entry-level employee, I was saying something about managing people, and he interrupted with: “No! My job is to make you successful!”

It’s not about ego or being brute-force superior. That’s important in a primal, survival, toe-the-line-or-the-alpha-will-bite kind of way, but not for leading voluntary people, D&s or otherwise, imho.

Many disagree with me, they want to be crushed into the ground and left feeling inferior, their self-esteem dwindling, and the part of me who wants to say “that’s not D&s” needs to be bitchslapped because I am not the one who gets to decide or negotiate that. It might be valid, healthy D&s and I know my thoughts of “I fail to see how that could be,” is a textbook “argument from ignorance” logical fallacy. Please, if you’re one of these people, don’t let me shit on your kink.

From my point of view, though, the main inner strength of a dominant can be found by facing and even embracing and working towards a horizon where your sub is awesome, has faced more demons than you have, and is therefore, with your help, better and stronger than you in many, many ways, and realizing that doesn’t threaten either of you nor your relationship.

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And then there’s just topping and bottoming, which is just plain fun. Don’t think everything you do or want to do needs to have deeper meaning. 🙂

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Also, relationship advice that is in tension with the above if you’re not careful: Don’t date projects. “Oooh, I can help them” is not a good basis for a relationship. Trust me on this one.